Ahhh yes, the thing that has caused Dean to think, since he was a child, shotgun in hand, that his life is literally worthless in comparison to his little brother’s isn’t so bad, right? I don’t know what show you’re watching where this bond has never done more harm than good, because literally this entire season has been dedicated to showing just how toxic their current dynamic is to their lives. If their endgames are going to be happy, or at least hopeful, things have GOT to change between them.
Look, here’s the thing, there’s a difference between being close with someone, and being so dependent on them for your own survival and self worth that you sell your soul to bring them back. There is a difference between having an anchor, and having someone that you literally can not function without. There is a difference between protecting someone you love, and sacrificing literally everything for them. That is not romantic or beautiful. That is destructive. That is TOXIC AS HELL.
I wouldn’t say Dean’s bond with Sam keeps him sane, I would say at this stage it keeps him wallowing in self-loathing and loneliness. If their dynamic doesn’t change, neither one of them will ever be happy. How many times does Sam have to vocalize that this isn’t the life he wants? How many times do we have to see Dean unable to differentiate his own wants and desires from his brothers? How many people does Dean have to push put of his life for the sake of “saving Sammy” before everyone can see that there IS something fundamentally wrong here?
This isn’t season 1 anymore (when, by the way, they were both still pretty miserable), this isn’t season 5 where that bond is perhaps the thing that allowed Sam to overpower Lucifer and save the world. This is season 9, and these are two grown men who want different things out of life. This is season 9, and this bond that is the “foundation of the show” stopped being cute 4 seasons ago…